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Archive for July, 2018

Sunday, July 15th, 2018

Is Your Procrastination Style Working For You?

by Rebecca Shafir, M.A.CCC Personal Development and Executive Functioning coach at the Hallowell Center MetroWest

I bet you thought I was going to curse procrastination in this blog. Au contraire!  Not all procrastination is bad. As a matter of fact, putting off a major undertaking may give you time to consider the risks. On the other hand, you may have a style of procrastination that works very well for you. According to Mary Lamia in her book What Motivates Getting Things Done, procrastination is a problem when styles collide or when the deadlines are missed or met with unreasonable stress.

Before I talk about different styles of procrastination, let’s clarify the difference between good and bad stress. Good stress is excitement or intense curiosity, like the jitters you may experience before doing a talk. Bad stress is anxiety provoking, panicky, self-sabotaging and physiologically unhealthy for us and those around us.

Lamia distinguishes between Deadline-Driven and Task-Driven procrastination styles, DDPs and TDPs respectively. DDPs note the deadline and begin mentally planning the task in spurts without taking any overt action. They may let the idea incubate for several days and weeks. Come the last day, it all comes together. Many successful DDPs report a surge of “good stress” and a heightened state of focus within hours of the deadline. They often deliver their best work under pressure. If you’re DDP, and the fallout doesn’t take a toll on your health or the well-being of those around you, it’s a safe and effective strategy, so go with it.

TDPs will start tasks almost immediately, but not complete the tasks until later. They may be perfectionistic and postpone task completion until it meets a high level of quality. These folks have a hard time being satisfied with “good enough.” Yet the successful TDPs will manage many tasks at once and eventually meet their deadlines with a minimal amount of bad stress.

Since procrastination, the bad stress variety, is such a common complaint, I find it easier to help my clients become more efficient within a style that suits them versus trying to switch horses. It’s also good advice to share your style for meeting deadlines with co-workers and partners, as both styles can be unnerving to the non-procrastinator.

Would you like to make your style of procrastination more efficient or rid yourself of procrastination for good? Happy to help! Contact me at Rebecca@MindfulCommunication.com     

Thursday, July 12th, 2018

ADHD and Marriage Advice from the Hallowells

Since Distraction is taking a mini break before we start Season 3, they’re re-airing a few of our favorite episodes. So if you missed my podcast with my wife Sue on ADHD, you can listen to it HERE!

Sue doesn’t hold back and gives you a clear picture of what it’s like to be the only one in our house without ADHD.  You can watch this  YouTube video for a “behind the scenes view of this episode.”

CLICK HERE for more tips on managing ADHD and Marriage.

Tuesday, July 10th, 2018

Seeking young person who overcame a challenging relationship with technology.

RECKONINGS INVITATION

My name is Stephanie Lepp and I’m the host of Reckonings (www.reckonings. show/about), a podcast exploring how people shift their political world views, recover from addiction, and make other kinds of transformative change. For an upcoming episode, I’d love to feature a young person who overcame a challenging relationship with technology.

The young person can be anonymous or first-name only. Interviews are pre-recorded (not live), conducted remotely via Skype (only audio, no video), and take ~2 hours. I’m happy to work parents, teachers, or other mentors to ensure the guest feels comfortable throughout the process. My goal is to create a piece that the guest feels accurately reflects his/her experience, and might even be proud to share with his/her community. For reference, check out episode #16 featuring two teens who overcame bullying behavior: http://www.reckoning s.show/episodes/16

If you’re open to it, the first step is a quick exploratory call with me. No commitment to being interviewed, just a quick chat for me to give context and us to feel out whether there’s a good fit. I can be reached via email  @stephanie@infinitelunchbox.comor by phone @415.871.5683

This moment presents an opportunity to model how we might overcome our struggles with technology. Let’s seize it together 🙂

Tuesday, July 10th, 2018

The New Refrain

There’s a new refrain I’m hearing more and more everywhere I go.  It used to be, “I’m so upset, I don’t know what to do.”  But that’s just not sustainable.  You can only be so upset you don’t know what to do for so long before you figure out something to do.  And that’s become the new refrain.

What I hear more and more, everywhere I go, is this:  “I’ve decided I’m going to focus my energy and my talent and my resources on what I can control, and let the rest go hang,” or words to that effect.  “I’m going to work on what I can actually change myself, or help a team to change, and let the rest be damned,” or words to that effect.  “I’m going to stop being so upset by what I can’t control and start taking satisfaction in working on what I can control.”

That’s the new refrain.  That’s the conclusion more and more people tell me they’ve reached, everywhere I go.

It makes a lot of sense.  One way to die young, or get sick soon, is to worry yourself silly over all the things you can’t control, and these days we have more than life’s usual array of scoundrels, thieves, charlatans, and popinjays who’d steal us away from the meaningful tasks and pleasures we can actually regulate and develop ourselves.  They would abscond with our minds, if we’d let them, and lately we’ve been letting them, many of us have at least, myself included.

Which is why I am joining the refrain, I intend to embrace, work on, advance, and sweat over what I can stand a chance of controlling or at least significantly influencing myself, and do my very damnedest to ignore the most diverting sideshow this country has ever seen.

If I am going to get work done, if I am going to have fun, I’ve got to stop getting distracted by the sideshow, because it’s becoming the main show.  For us with ADHD, this is a teaching moment, as the new jargon puts it.  People like me can take a lesson and learn how to focus what matters and stop getting distracted by what is enormously entertaining and seems to matter a hell of a lot, but over which I, at least, have zero control.

I have to get back to work.  To this note.  To my books.  To my patients.  To my talks.  To growing my clinics.  To spreading my strength-based message.  To having fun with my wife and our kids and our friends.

I bet you have really interesting stuff to get back to as well.  As incredibly diverting as the sideshow is, produced by masters of entertainment and PR, we have to seize this teaching moment and discipline ourselves to get back to tending to what we can significantly influence and control.

Don’t get me wrong.  I am not saying don’t vote.  For goodness sake, vote!  Every citizen should vote if he or she wants to call him or herself a citizen.

But at the same time, live the life that adds the most to this world.  Life the life not of a spectator, but of a do-er, a creator, a builder.

Enough of the feeling miserable, ok?  Let’s do something positive every day.

Monday, July 9th, 2018

Win a Copy of Dr. Hallowell’s Memoir

We’re running a contest for people who write a review of Dr. Hallowell’s Memoir “Because I Come from a Crazy Family: The Making of a Psychiatrist” by July 15, 2018 on Amazon or their favorite retailer site.
We’re giving away 10 copies of Dr. Hallowell’s Memoir.  To enter the contest, write a review of his Memoir, send a screen shot to hallowellevents@yahoo.com and your name will be entered into a drawing to win a copy of his book.
Drawing will be held July 16, 2018 and winners will be notified by email. Feel free to gift the book to someone from your own or another “crazy” family!
Because I Come From A Crazy Family is Dr. Hallowell’s own personal story of growing up and my early training in psychiatry. Everything in the book is true, it all really happened. At its heart, this is a book about love, love in its many shapes and sizes, love in its comic and poignant proportions, love that makes us sing and cry. We hope you will read it, and please write a review. Thank you.
Tuesday, July 3rd, 2018

The Making of a Psychiatrist

Recently I had the pleasure to speak with Julie Rose, Top of Mind, BYUradio. We discussed my Memoir and why I became a psychiatrist. I also read a few passages.  LISTEN here!

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